I was inspired to right this after watching a recent episode of New Girl with the theme of acting like a grown up and what that actually means. In my opinion all of the characters are ridiculously and hilariously immature. So is the proof you are an adult in the things you have i.e. a mortgage, a car, a pension is it in the way you act i.e. admitting you are all having a crappy night out and just want to go home and watch your favourite box set together?
My 30th birthday do was meant to be a big night out in town but people cancelled as they were skint or self conscious of going to bars on a Friday night or working an early shift in the morning. It ended up being just the five of us at home with Spotify as the DJ and a few bowls of nibbles.
I was gutted as I was desperate to give my 20’s a wild send of. I wasn’t ready to have modest gatherings where people bring quality wine. I wanted to down a bottle of Lambrini then go and dance on table in town. The sad thing is, if I’d have relaxed instead of trying to prove something to my self, I’m sure I would have had a lot more fun!
You may have read recently in the Telegraph that Skipton Building Society have come up with a list of ’50 Signs You Are A Grown Up’. I noticed ‘Having children’ was at number 6. and ‘Getting married’ was at number 9. So if you don’t want to get married and like me, you are slightly allergic to kids, then apparently, you are doomed to be a girl version of Peter Pan forever. Actually, that sounds pretty awesome!
I thought there were too many personal life choices in the list for my liking so I made up my own. I chose standard things, which mean you are able to be independent – even if you still get excited by the sound of the ice cream van pulling up and wear socks with cartoon characters on.
20 Ways To Tell You Are A Grown-up
1. Having your own space, wether you are renting, you’ve bought it or are sharing it with a partner or friends.
2. Having enough common sense to be a good driver, regardless of wether you own a car.
3. You clear out the fridge before it turns into it’s own mini eco system.
4. You go food shopping with the idea of making meals rather than filling your trolly with random things that look yummy.
5. Having some idea of your incoming and outgoings and file your statements/receipts (shoving them in a draw doesn’t count). Wether you choose to spend most of your incomings on shoes is up to you.
6. Being responsible for a house plant without accidentally killing it.
7. Being responsible for a pet without accidentally, er…
8. Having nail varnish remover and cotton pads in at the same time so you don’t turn up with chipped nails.
9. Considering others feelings and plans and accept that everything doesn’t revolve around you.
10. Being aware of what is going on in the world politically. Sporadically checking the Guardian news app totally counts.
11. Getting on top of the cleaning, washing and ironing (if you can be bothered to flatten your clothes) without anyone helping you.
12. Having a sense of community and helping out local people or joining in with a project or a campaign.
13. When people older than you ask you for advice or your perspective on a situation. You are now wise!
14. If there was a flood or the lights went off in your home, you would know what to do, other than ringing your parents/partner.
15. Counting backwards eight hours from when you have to get up, so you know when you’re meant to go to bed.
16. You carry a Marry Poppins bag containing everything you could possible need if you’re ‘caught out’.
17. Neighbourhood kids ask you to buy alcohol for them. You refuse.
18. Having ‘best’ crockery, towels, sheets and glasses for when you have company.
19. Religiously taking your make up of before bed (face wipes count, they do).
20. Being mature enough to know your own mind and be responsible for your own decisions.
I just about manage all of these things but concerning how I feel in my heart? I hope I stay young forever!